AUTHOR: Diane DeLap
She married the love of her life, Jan, in the early 1960s, and they learned together what Diane’s gender conflict would mean to them and their marriage. As they learned, they both became active in transgender support organizations, supportive LGBTQI+ groups, and mainline Christian denominations, working for inclusion and acceptance of gender variant persons. Jan succumbed to breast cancer in 2019, so Diane took on the task of telling their story with this book. Diane lives with her three cats, Lily, Tolstoy, and Quinn, in Southwestern New Hampshire.
Life from Both Sides Now is the story of a couple who navigated some of the most difficult of life's issues for almost fifty-five years of marriage and maintained a loving relationship. Subtitled Living and Loving a Transgender Life Together, their story tells how together they tackled the effects of abusive childhoods and discovered how to integrate gender identity conflicts into their loving relationship.
Along the way, they raised a son, worked in various industries, and, in their church and other organizations, became advocates for diversity and acceptance of oppressed communities. They overcame tragedy and opposition and thrived. They also learned the lessons of what it means to transition between genders in today's world. They lost friends, close family members, jobs, and church relationships, but they discovered more supportive friends, accepting employers, and welcoming churches. Through it all, they remained "Velcroed at the hip together," supporting each other.